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A few years after our separation and subsequent divorce, my ex-wife moved with our two children from Munich to Hamburg. Until then, I saw my daughter and son regularly and easily on the weekends and during the holidays.

When my family moved to Hamburg, everything changed suddenly. …


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The realization came from one moment to the other, even if it was to be foreseen for a long time. It's like "suddenly it was night" or "suddenly it was winter". It was to be expected, there were clear signs, experience actually taught me. …


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Displacement occurs in many areas of life: a ship’s hull that displaces water, a company that drives a competitor out of the market or a footballer who pushes his opponent off the ball. They all have the following principle in common: where there is one body, there cannot be another.


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Some time ago I was driving by car to a workshop together with my sister. On the way we talked about all kinds of things, we had more than enough topics. At some point the conversation turned to my - this - blog.

We talked about the fact that some…


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In the many years as a separated father, I have repeatedly lived through situations in which I felt rejected, hurt, offended, or treated unfairly by my children. In such cases, I react either with verbal aggression or with withdrawal.

Basically, this topic runs through almost my entire life and has…


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There are many aspects to the subject of the separated father that are worth exploring. In my earlier articles I have already written about a number of topics that I know very well from my own experience.

Everything that I have written and will write about, I have experienced myself…


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Over the years my children have lived in Hamburg, many events have happened that I was unable to be a part of. I only found out about some of the events in retrospect, some events I probably don't know about until today. …


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Do you know the nursery rhyme "There´s a hole in my bucket"? I guess you know it! If not, you can easily find it on YouTube. And what to do with the hole in the bucket? Of course, you mend it. No question!

The fact that the hole cannot be…


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In modern Western society, the image of family and fatherhood has changed dramatically over the past few years and decades. Compared to before, it has become much more colorful, diverse and multifaceted.

While in the past the father was primarily only the producer and breadwinner of his child, today he…


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Who needs another reason to celebrate these days? A couple of good friends, delicious food, enough to drink, great music, and the party starts. Why? Not so important! The main thing is that the guests are in a good mood and the neighbors are not stressful. Sounds great, doesn't it?

Christian Peter Niklis

850 kilometers are no big deal if you go on vacation, but they surely are if you miss your children. Stories from a German father. (www.papa-bleiben.de)

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